Hello. I almost didn’t post today, but then I remembered how I ended my last post, and it would’ve just been typical of me. So… I’m here.
- Publication date: June 11, 2020
- Age demographic: All ages
- Genre: Non-fiction
WOMEN DON’T OWE YOU PRETTY will tell you to…
love sex, hate sexism,
protect your goddamn energy,
life is short, dump them,
And that you owe men nothing, least of all pretty.
Florence’s debut book will explore all progressive corners of the feminist conversation; from insecurity projection and refusing to find comfort in other women’s flaws, to deciding whether to date or dump them, all the way through to unpacking the male gaze and how it shapes our identity.
WOMEN DON’T OWE YOU PRETTY is an accessible leap into feminism, for people at all stages of their journey who are seeking to reshape and transform the way they view themselves. In a world that tells women we’re either not enough or too much, it’s time we stop directing our anger and insecurities onto ourselves, and start fighting back to re-shape the toxic structures of our patriarchal society.
Florence’s book will help you to tackle and challenge the limiting narrative you have been bombarded with your whole life, and determine feminism on your own terms. After all, you are the love of your own life.
I am not sure how to articulate properly how I felt about this book. I thought the idea itself was definitely better than the execution, although I don’t think the execution is necessarily that bad. See, I’m already not making much sense.
Books about feminism and the experience of being a female usually don’t get 5 stars from me for a few reasons. First of all, and it is most definitely my fault, the ones I pick up seem like the introduction to feminism. I am by no means an expert on the subject, but I do know a fair bit and have nearly 29 years of experience being a woman, which comes with a LOT of “baggage”.
What I couldn’t understand, once I finished the book was how the title didn’t really match up with the book contents. The author seems to be writing it for other women specifically – and while many probably found it helpful in some ways, I think the message of “women don’t owe you pretty” is one that should be pushed onto the society in general, with a big emphasis on men. Because while learning about actual feminism is important to young girls and older women who might’ve been raised believing that being a feminist means hating men, a big chunk of us who are drawn to feminist media, already know that and try to combat the inequality. Many things in the book aren’t young-girl “friendly” (I don’t mean that young girls shouldn’t learn about it, but that the way it is conveyed isn’t necessarily appropriate for young girls, which some will probably disagree with), though, so the bracket gets smaller again.
I think the topics mentioned in the book were super important, they just weren’t in any way new and didn’t show a perspective we haven’t already seen. It mentioned the ideas and directly quoted many other activists who seemed to have a more in depth analysis of the issues. And a thing that grated on me so much was the repeated cliches. Don’t settle for crumbs when you deserve a whole damn cake was said so many times, and the author also quoted The Perks of being a Wallflower without realising it, as the incredibly famous “we accept the love we think we deserve” wasn’t put in quotation marks.
Do I think books like this should exist? Absolutely! Did I learn anything new from it? Nope.
Rating and recommendations
People getting into feminism, fans of non fiction.
Thanks for reading.